The Beginning of Forgiveness

I wondered how do we get to the point of forgiving being forgetting altogether. I have walked that rugged journey before but the road changes each time you try to visit. Is there a discussion period of the known and unknown problems or do you jump straight to the I'm sorry's? I am not quite sure anymore. Heart strings no longer have that harp sound when played they mimic upright bass with no musical accompaniment. Its hard to dance to but feet move anyway out of wishing, wanting to glide graceful like yesterdays. But can you move forward without bringing up the past? Even if daily those thoughts are regurgitated like arson laced rotten pork, really hard to keep down. These things only matter when love and not moments of lust was the beginning; the forefront of what led to this place, this spot where forgetting is necessary. I have heard the I forgave you for that but if it is brought up in conversations later that has to mean it wasn't forgotten. I am just asking how does it work forgiving and forgetting - together as a unit of growth. Soon will be coming a new year with clean slate on the top list of resolutions and new starts in the pockets of everyone moving forward. I hope every venture reaps the benefit of the work put in to it for everyone. Now answer me this How do we get there from here, Forgetting?